How to find your style, the eternal question. I saw myself in the mirror a couple of months ago, in my fuzzy baby blue jumper with a matching baby blue ribbon in my hair. I thought to myself “I love wearing ribbon in my hair, I should do this more often” but then my thoughts juxtaposed to “I love wearing all black and looking classy, ribbons aren’t classy”. What about the Vans Old Skool’s having a little bit of rest in my wardrobe then. I had to ask myself, what is my style?
I’ve always prided myself on looking a bit too overdressed; blazers, heeled boots, all black. That makes me feel great, but recently I’ve been wearing denim jackets and trainers and I’ve questioned if I wasn’t being me. I then came across a blog post by Maria (that very same day like the universe was trying to tell me something) on not having to stick to one style and I thought… HELL YEAH, I DON’T HAVE TO!
My vans are me, red lipstick I once swore made me look like a clown is me, fitted blazers are me and t-shirts I banished a long time ago are me. We don’t have just one style and within that, we can definitely mix up between styles. I wear my graphic t-shirt with a cape blazer if I want to or my heeled boots with a denim jacket if I feel like it.
1. Using inspo doesn’t make you any less you
I take inspiration from bloggers and influencers, that’s still me. I’m not a fashion stylist by any means so I have no shame in saying I need a little inspiration from time to time. This is why bloggers are so influential, if she’s wearing it and looks sassy AF then I want to rock it too. I also take inspiration from my own friends as some of them have a really good fashion eye. I obviously put my own spin on most things, such as buying a cheaper alternative (only partially joking here) or just picking out the item that stands out and reworking the outfit.
2. Step outside your comfort zone
The biggest thing I’ve learnt over the past year is to bloody go for it, for a plethora of things but specifically with fashion and style. I would never have worn red lipstick a few years ago, or t-shirts even a year ago but now I rock both of them together and love it. You can always return something if it doesn’t quite work so why not give it a chance? I’m trying to get more into hats this year, in the end, they may all look awful on me but at least I’ve tried right?
3. Go against the grain
You don’t have to stick to trends or traditional fashion styles. You do you boo. I wear things for years, I will rinse out a trend till it dies a worn out death and is way past its season. Mix colours, prints, wear a denim skirt in the winter, just do whatever makes you feel great.
If I love an item why would I not re wear it over and over again? I’m not really about a one use culture, I don’t like waste but like I said earlier you do you boo.
4. Growing out of things is natural
By this I mean mentally although I have grown out of some things physically… Sometimes you just have to face that some things aren’t for you anymore. The time may come to hang up the tight bodycon glittery mini dresses you rocked religiously back in uni (some of mine have yet to have their funerals), or the blocky Air Max that seemed good at the time. There’s actually no better feeling than downsizing your wardrobe, clearing it out and sending once loved items off to charity to help other people find their style.
5. Try again
If all else fails and you’re stuck in a rut then dust yourself off and try again. Not everything is going to work, what might work for that blogger may not work for you (I’ve had to learn this one a lot). Keep trying as you keep growing. You’ll be amazed at what you liked before and don’t like now and vice versa, and there’s a good chance that can change again in the next 5 years if not sooner.
What new pieces have you tried this year? What do you have a new found love for?